Some of my friends with their own business have a huge influx of “Last Minute, Urgent Calls that require an ASAP call back” These calls also tend to come in after work hours which are already way longer, during the holidays so they can meet their customers need in a timely and very professional fashion/
I admit that I had that last minute urgency and/or have forgotten one or two or ten things and wanted to get the specific issue done/bought/prepared as soon as I remembered them, until one day I said to myself: “Enough Clara Isabel, enough of this fretting.” Since then, each holiday season, I see and appreciate more and more why, many years ago, I made a very important decision: I will enjoy the holidays with my family as joyfully and stress free as possible. If something comes up at the last minute that seems to be that urgent and stress inducing then:
1. I might have to drive somewhere to get it. A call will not really be enough, considering the urgency.
2. I Don’t really need that type of stress in my life so I just set it aside and relax. If I didn’t get it done in due time, what am I thinking stressing this much is going to achieve? I mean, honestly what?, apart from a stomachache, bad mood, ruining a nice evening in front of the fire place, with a blanket, hot cocoa, and my lovers arms around me, once my children are already in bed?
3. If it is really that important I wouldn’t have forgotten. So, I don’t have to worry.
4. I find a solution that leads to a great story to tell my grandchildren.
5. I knock on my neighbors door and ask if they can help.
6. In the end, is it really that important? Do I need to cause aggravation to the already tired people working long hours at the stores, having to put their best face on to smile at me, while last minute, frantic shoppers are going crazy and ignoring the fact that these workers, associates, team members, also have a life?
7. I think of my dream home, my beloved husband, my beautiful children and just breath in, “Oh the joys and the blessings.” To me, this is what I call: “The Elation and The Reasons of My Family Holiday Traditions”
8. I look in the mirror and smile at myself. I will always get a smile back, that I am sure of. Then, it all goes away. No worries, I just have holiday family moments to turn into beautiful family memories to share for generations to come.
I see a challenge, I think solutions with the best possible outcome. I like to occupy myself in productive ways instead of preoccupying myself, which doesn’t really make much sense to me. For that, we have strategic planning, organized to do list, family routines in place, shared responsibilities, and schedules and structures to assist us. The rest is just technicalities.
Now, here I leave you with a smile and a thought. If it is that urgent, that you need to call the store and get all stressed out, or call the owners, get a stomachache and feel upset while making others upset, then I’d be talking about something totally different that has nothing to do with the true holiday spirit and season, and I would be suggesting hiring a special type of concierge service, learning to prioritize, take a home economics class, asking a friend for suggestions on how to better keep track of must-do must-have items, reading a book in getting organized and making the properly prioritized to do list, or just find a good therapist, because sometimes, it really is all in my head and is not really that important.
So, if you call a business and you get this type of voice mail, don’t blame me… just slowly move, please put the phone down, and even more slowly back away from the phone, find the closest mirror, look into it and smile, repeat the smile! I promise you will get a smile back each time, I promise! If you don’t get a smile, let me know and I’ll give you one. I always have smiles readily available to share.
Enjoy the Holidays and forget the Bustling!
Smile, smile smile and Stand Proud Beautiful Children